Guys need hugs too
Not a tepid side hug or half hug, but a full-bodied embrace. I have a group of cisgender, straight male friends and the way we greet each other is always the same: we open our arms wide, wrap them around each other and squeeze tight. Scientific studies show that hugs lead to better outcomes in terms of both health and happiness. Hugging increases levels of oxytocin also known as the cuddle hormone , a naturally occurring brain chemical strongly linked to social bonding, while at the same time decreasing heart rate and blood pressure, which can help alleviate stress and anxiety. So why are so many men afraid of a little platonic physical contact? Outside of sexual relationships, the rule of thumb for men and displays of physical affection is: do not touch.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Big Guys Need Hugs Too
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- Why I Love Guys Who Hug Other Guys
- No hugging: are we living through a crisis of touch?
- Study: Men Need Cuddles, Too
- Guys Need Hugs More
- Why Do Guys Always Have to Pat Each Other on the Back When They Hug?
- A Guide To Hugging
- Hugs and kisses: The health impact of affective touch
- The truth about men and cuddling
- The Power of Touch, Especially for Men
Why I Love Guys Who Hug Other Guys
A new study shows hugs matter more to men than women. Every now and then The Stat People do their little person maths and come up with a new fact about relationships that is so satisfying in its basically being something I ALREADY THINK that I'm utterly convinced by its veracity, feel zero need to question any of the findings and compelled to do a little victory action dance most likely the 'In Your Face' dance, devised little over a year ago for reasons that should probably remain secret.
ANYWAY, the latest cause for percentage-based celebration comes via the sciencey type people at Indiana University's Kinsey Institute who - having surveyed couples from all over the world - discovered that men are WAY more bothered about cuddles than women.
Yep, while guys might on the whole and yes I'm generalising but stats generalise so really I'm just getting on board with the whole theme here may THINK they're all un-bothered, shoulder-shrugging 'I don't need hugs, much less an entire night of lady-based snuggling' - it turns out the complete opposite is the case.
And as report author Julia Heiman said "Cuddles were more important to men. The really useful message is we should not make presumptions about the genders, because there's no way to be sure we're going to be right in any way. But as previously and possibly slightly smugly mentioned none of this comes as any real surprise to me, being the hug-phobe in all my, um, failed relationships. I mean it's not that I'm entirely averse to human contact, like some kind of heartless dating automaton although I do quite like the idea of that.
I love hugging, and holding hands, and kissing, and touching, and - okay, I think I might be straying into another blog altogether here. It's just that when I'm in bed with a guy, once the naked fun times are done, and we've shared a post coital cuddle that signals 'That was nice and sort of meant something' rather than 'Thanks and now please leave', can we not all just move on to our sides of the bed, turn our backs on each other and get some decent sleep, that doesn't require me to rest my head in the kind of unnatural angle that will cause me agonising pain every time I make the slightest nod or movement?
It's just that once the requisite hug time has been enjoyed circa ten mins , I like to get into a maximum comfort position a sort of S shape facing the opposite direction , and fall asleep thinking about me things and my world. Just a comfortable and not overly needy one. Anyway, now the cuddle myth has been dealt with, perhaps The Stat People could turn to proving some other amusingly 'girly' man facts.
Crying at romcoms. Feeling guilty over chocolate. Having entire wardrobe-based meltdowns. I might even give them a hug for it. For more single girl ramblings, follow me laurajanecosmo. Type keyword s to search. Today's Top Stories.
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No hugging: are we living through a crisis of touch?
He was slowly dying in a nursing home, and no one who visited him — from my mother, his wife of 42 years, to my three siblings — held his hand. How do you reach for something that, for so many decades, hinted at violence and, worse, dismissal? In the flickering gray from the old black-and-white movies we watched together, I finally did it. His curled fingers opened, unhinging some long-sealed door within me, then lightly closed around mine. Before I left, I did something else none of the males in my family had ever done before.
There are a number of good reasons that touching, hugging, and kissing the people we love feels comforting and reassuring. In this Spotlight, we will explore how such displays of affection impact your health and well-being. Various cultures use touch in various ways to display tenderness or respect, and other non-human primates use it to create a connection and establish social hierarchies. Recently, however, some experts have expressed concern that Western societies are experiencing a moment of crisis, as physical touch becomes more strictly regulated and we are less and less likely to engage in social acts such as hugging.
Study: Men Need Cuddles, Too
Wearing their bowler-hat props, they struck intimate poses in front of landmark buildings and at the top of skyscrapers , clinging to each other on the Coney Island Wonder Wheel and walking down the boardwalk hand in hand. It was possibly the cutest social-media marketing campaign ever, and quickly all over the news media, too. As sensitive-lad blogs like the Good Man Project have written, the homosocial love common in black-and-white photographs of men all but went extinct in the middle of the 20th century in America, when homosexuality changed from practice to pathologized identity. Yet I submit that they might also be rewarded by attracting straight women. It was serving some murky, heterosexual purpose for us, too. I probably liked that my high-school boyfriend and his friends were practicing this non-goal-oriented affection on one another, and not the other girls I considered my vague competition. Bros — and the single-sex institutions that produce them — get a bad rap these days, and for good reason. The role of fraternities and athletic teams in propagating white-male supremacy and protecting rapists is measurable, and probably requires reform. They have also left many a bro hopeless , style-wise, as Jezebel expertly delineated last week. But let no one say that bros have done nothing good!
Guys Need Hugs More
Male-to-male greeting in America takes many forms. The fist bump. The head nod. The you-too-huh? And, according to experts, there is!
W hen did you last touch someone outside your family or intimate relationship? I mean: when did you pat the arm or back of a stranger, colleague or friend? One was a newborn and two were accidental that was the delivery guy. Touch is the first sense humans develop in the womb, possessed even of 1.
Why Do Guys Always Have to Pat Each Other on the Back When They Hug?
They are often covered in acne, sharp-tongued, sweaty, and always stuffing food into their mouths. They can sleep until noon and may be permanently attached to cell phones, iPods, or video controllers. These charming creatures are teenage boys.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Trevor Jackson - Boys Need Love 2 (Lyrics)
Men with long-term partners are more likely to be satisfied with their relationships if they're getting lots of hugs, cuddles and other signs of physical affection, a new study finds. The research, to be published in August in the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, also found that men are more likely to say they're happy in their relationships, while women are more likely to say that they're sexually satisfied. Those findings were opposite of what the researchers expected, said study author Julia Heiman, a psychologist and the director of The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction at Indiana University. The new study looked at 1, couples from the U. Half of the sample had been coupled for at least 25 years.
A Guide To Hugging
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Hugs and kisses: The health impact of affective touch
The truth about men and cuddling
The Power of Touch, Especially for Men